Hedda Gabler by Henrik Ibsen

 Hedda Gabler by Henrik Ibsen

 

This is not a spoiler alert, but I have to say that I am subjective and did not like what is considered a masterpiece.

Now I can amend that a little and say that I get it, if not at the deserved maximum, but I can see why scholars acclaim it as a great work, a play for the advancement of women.

Yes, the main character is strong willed, unlike the female roles that had been present in plays before, but I did not like her.

Reading about the play, I see that in Australia, a man was selected to play the part and this is just my point. I am no male chauvinist pig (I guess). I admire women, in my house, my daughter and wife make the (too many) rules. But, as a possible conservative, I feel that we are different and we should celebrate our differences. After all, even modern science has proved beyond any doubt that the male brain is very different from the female one, in scanners, tomography, RMOIs, etc.

Women should and must be leaders, CEOs, law makers, everywhere in key positions.

I am just not comfortable with aggressive women. Aggressive men are a pain also and they must make every effort to overcome some of those prehistoric habits and inclinations. Women have more empathy; get along better with others, have a better shot at an excellent EQ, their Emotional Intelligence can go way higher than that of men.

Perhaps wrongly, I feel that women can be so much better than (us) men, but by using their natural advantages, not by jumping into the silly games men play: wrestling and the like are just plain nonsense, it is not necessary for women to be ridiculous as men, all in the name of equal rights, read in terms of we all have right to act stupid.

But then, who am I to judge?

Hedda Gabler struck me as mean.

Yes, a strong woman, especially when compared with other wimpish men, but cruel for my taste.

In my “culture” we play tribute to the way we were raised, the companions we had and the view we shared when we watched women pass by (in fact, most of the time we looked for their behind).

I have progressed somewhat ever since, but no matter how much I am aware of the right thing to do, say and think, somewhere inside, there are many discussions, layers of information, dialogues which went like : “ce buna e aia”…she is so hot, how I would like to…”

Mind you, this is not me saying those things, at least not all the time…but being with guys, one heard this over and over and over…again and again.

Even now, when I look down on such men, I keep hearing this kind of talk at the sauna, the locker room, in the street.

We have a long way to go.

And in what regards mu “taste”: I feel women should be more delicate, suave, sensitive, empathizing, humane, sensitive, soft, beautiful, caressing, caring and more.

I feel, and may be dead wrong, that Hedda Gabler is none of those things.

I would not marry her.

But then, probably she scares the hell out of many men and a good reason to be admired.

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