How To Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie is the definition of a classic, with more than thirty million copies, published in 1936, it is now ranked 1141st on The Greatest Books of All time Site – many of the books listed there are reviewed on my blog https://realinibarzoi.blogspot.com/2025/01/maybe-you-have-some-ideas-click-on-link.html A look at How You Influence People in the age of The Orange Clown? - 9 out of 10
How To Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie is
the definition of a classic, with more than thirty million copies, published in
1936, it is now ranked 1141st on The Greatest Books of All time Site – many
of the books listed there are reviewed on my blog https://realinibarzoi.blogspot.com/2025/01/maybe-you-have-some-ideas-click-on-link.html
A look at How You Influence People in the age of The Orange
Clown?
9 out of 10
This is one of the best-selling books of all time, and yet
it is just 1141st on this new site which was analyzed in an article
in The Economist, thus being vouchsafed for me, so we can draw the conclusion
that it is no longer such a hot beano, or is it the contrary, even beyond the
1,000 mark, this still means something?
‘A 2013 Library of Congress survey ranked Carnegie's
volume as the seventh most influential book in American history. How to Win
Friends and Influence People was number eight on the list of "Top Check
Outs Of All Time" by the New York Public Library’ and it has more than
a million ratings on Goodreads, nevertheless…
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It may feel that it is not for this age
First, we need to see the merits – incidentally, Harvard
Professor Tal Ben-Shahar https://realinibarzoi.blogspot.com/2025/02/happier-by-tal-ben-shahar.html
had this mantra ‘be a merit finder, not a fault finder’ in his lectures, which
have been the most popular course in the history of this Ivy League institution
The friends in the title are crucial, psychology studies
have shown that the happiest people do not have wealth in common – just think
of Orange Jesus, who is almost always grumpy, albeit this is a nut job anyway –
they have strong bonds with friends and family, and I wish I had that, only I
have no tie with the spouse
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You should read The How of Happiness by Sonja
Lyubomirsky
In this sublime work https://realinibarzoi.blogspot.com/2025/01/the-how-of-happiness-by-sonja.html
we have ‘Happiness Activity No 5: Nurturing Social Relationships-picking a
relationship in need of strengthening and investing time and energy in heeling,
cultivating affirming and enjoying it’ and Dale Carnegie agrees
If only that were possible…
Wait, it is, if you read this book, because it is exactly
about how to Win Friends and Influence People, but if we are to look closer at
this title, we may be puzzled, win friends as in get new ones, put the ones we
have to the floor, and win the wrestling, judo, or some other competition, what
does Dale Carnegie mean?
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Just be nice to them!
It is oversimplifying it to the point of derision, but the
author does insist on the fact that people like you to be polite – another
pause, how come they vote for the likes of the Orange Felon then? -talk about
what is on interest to them, such as their persona, not go on about yourself, use
encouraging, faltering language
The nadir these days would be this Orange Fool that has been
the leader of the free world (again!) for the last eleven days or so, and he is
the epitome of rudeness, vileness and so much more, so the question here is How
You Influence People in the Orange Era of the absolute idiot, with this
paradigm change
You find the funniest definition of paradigm shift in Vernon
God Little https://realinibarzoi.blogspot.com/2025/02/vernon-god-little-by-dbc-pierre.html
by DBC Pierre, and now it is about bullying, lying, boasting, a cringe show to
my mind, and such a bliss for billions of fans of this moron
About a more authoritive book on How To Influence People –
that would be Influence by Robert Cialdini with the six principles he has
identified Reciprocity, Respect for Authority – more and more humans want dictators
– Social Proof, Liking, Consistency and Scarcity, used in marketing and sales, often
with disastrous effects
From Influence https://realinibarzoi.blogspot.com/2025/02/influence-by-robert-cialdini.html
we find about some extraordinary situations, such as mass suicides, one of them
happened in Guyana, wherein Respect for Authority was taken to an extreme,
something that was seen in The Milgram Experiment, conducted by Yale University
psychologist Stanley Milgram in 1961, which measured the willingness of study
participants to obey an authority figure who instructed them to perform acts
conflicting with their personal conscience12. Participants were instructed to
administer seemingly painful electric shocks to a helpless victim,
demonstrating the human tendency to obey commands issued by authority, the flip
side would be…
Thomas Mann – he has a short story in which the notion of
friends and love is seen from a different angle, which is that in real life,
you have no such things, friends and love belong to art, literature, in
reality, when you test it, your friend is not there, love dies away…
https://realinibarzoi.blogspot.com/2025/02/note-on-how-to-win-friends-people-by.html
Now for my standard closing of the note with a question, and
invitation – maybe you have a good idea on how we could make more than a
million dollars with this https://realinibarzoi.blogspot.com/2025/01/maybe-you-have-some-ideas-click-on-link.html – as it is, this is a unique
technique, which we could promote, sell, open the Oscars show with or something
and then make lots of money together, if you have the how, I have the product,
I just do not know how to get the befits from it, other than the exercise per
se
There is also the
small matter of working for AT&T – this huge company asked me to be its
Representative for Romania and Bulgaria, on the Calling Card side, which meant
sailing into the Black Sea wo meet the US Navy ships, travelling to Sofia, a
lot of activity, using my mother’s two bedrooms flat as office and warehouse,
all for the grand total of $250, raised after a lot of persuasion to the
staggering $400…with retirement ahead, there are no benefits, nothing…it is a
longer story, but if you can help get the mastodont to pay some dues, or have
an idea how it can happen, let me know
As for my role in the Revolution that killed Ceausescu, a
smaller Mao, there it is http://realini.blogspot.com/2022/03/realini-in-newsweek-participant-in.html
Some favorite quotes from To The Hermitage and other works
‘Fiction is infinitely preferable to real life...As long as
you avoid the books of Kafka or Beckett, the everlasting plot of fiction has
fewer futile experiences than the careless plot of reality...Fiction's people
are fuller, deeper, cleverer, more moving than those in real life…Its actions
are more intricate, illuminating, noble, profound…There are many more dramas,
climaxes, romantic fulfillment, twists, turns, gratified resolutions…Unlike
reality, all of this you can experience without leaving the house or even
getting out of bed…What's more, books are a form of intelligent human
greatness, as stories are a higher order of sense…As random life is to destiny,
so stories are to great authors, who provided us with some of the highest
pleasures and the most wonderful mystifications we can find…Few stories are
greater than Anna Karenina, that wise epic by an often foolish author…’
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