Games People Play by Eric Berne

 Games People Play by Eric Berne


 

This is one of these great books I had the chance to discover, after reading 50 Psychology Classics. Very often it is funny; in fact I had the chance to look at a couple of videos on YouTube, where Eric Berne seemed to be a very pleasant man.

If it weren’t for you...This is one of the many games explained in this book. I tend to hear that sentence quite often, but it turns out that we have the partners we search for, deserve…we want them to prevent us from doing something we anyway do not want.

Ain’t it awful? Some of us want to feel pain, indeed one of the sexual games is masochism.

Why don’t you- the way the author explains and gives examples makes the book readable and enjoyable. At parties, Mrs. White says that her husband is making some furniture, but it’s no good. “Why don’t you” take carpentry classes, why don’t you buy better tools...there are all kinds of suggestions.

Alcoholic, even dry alcoholic is another type of game.

I’m only trying to help you IOTHY…here we are given the story of the poker game, where Eric Berne saw better how IOTHY is played: a businessman and a psychiatrist were left to play a hand at poker, the businessman raised and the psychiatrist raised too, saying I’m only trying to help you, after which he won the (poker) game.

 

Sexual games: let’s you and him fight, perversion

Perversion deals with fetishism, masochism.

There is the example I liked from Great Expectations: make me a mud pie…oh, how dirty you are, which translates into the game of Damn If You Do, Damn If You Don’t

Stocking game…woman who comes into the room, raises her leg and with that the interest of the male companions….

Uproar- that’s a game I just played, with my daughter-disagreements over program and more.

Now I’ve got You SOB

There are games of the Underworld: cops and robbers, where we learn that there’s a robber in many cops and a cop in many robbers. Professional robbers play it straight, safe and those who are in for the fun leave a card, make waves…

Games prisoners play: How Do You Get Out Of Here…some inmates simulate, they don’t really want out, they sabotage the plan, as the final day approaches.

You’ve Got To Listen is the game where the player says so to gain attention, the complaint or its solution are irrelevant to him.

Then there’s the example which reminded me of familiar communist territory: a kind of an aid agency has an employee who insists that a welfare recipient gets a job, where upon the applicant makes a complaint and the employee is rebuffed. Why?

After all, she only made the applicant get a job.

The game was different: the applicants pretended to search for jobs, the agency kept reporting improvements, even if nobody got any job and all were carrying on.

That’s the communist principle: we pretend to work they pretend to pay us.

 

The Peasant Game brings us close to home, in Bulgaria. An old woman is suffering, sells her cow to get to a doctor in Sofia. There she is seen by this specialist who recommends treatment, medicine. Back home in her village, the Peasant keeps the prescriptions and is proud to tell people in the community how she met this grand doctor, even if there’s no improvement in her condition.

Gee, Wonderful Professor…GWP

Great book! Gee, Wonderful Writer!
I rated it 5* on goodreads

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